I havent really been a very good friend to anyone recently.
It kind of started when I had that thing on my leg removed and then busted the stitches on my wound. Every day at work was eight hours of pain and by the time I got home, I just didnt feel much like talking to anyone face to face so I didnt.
But I cant really blame that entirely. Part of it has been that kind of inertia that everyone gets from time to time. I stopped calling people back and then they stopped calling. I know that I have hurt people's feelings with my lack of effort but luckily so far I have been able to talk it out with the ones who have let me know that they were annoyed with me or hurt. Repairs have been made and all is well again.
I am really thankful for the friends that I have. One friend called and left a worried sounding message on my machine which got me thinking about this stuff. I have called a couple of old friends to whom I havent talked in forever and that was really great. Sometimes good conversation can be very energizing! Every time I meet an old friend, I am reminded of why I liked them so much in the first place. I generally pick pretty awesome people to be my friends. One of the the best moments in a recent conversation was when I said to a friend "I dont remember who told me this but one of my friends one said, 'blah blah blah'" and she said "That was me!" and it was just so cool although I dont know why. Because I have internalized so many friendships maybe?
Anyways, I guess it is pretty easy to forget that friendships, like all relationships, take work. It isnt hard work and it is very rewarding but it is important. We have so much technology to help us do it too and yet it is still easy to let folks slip through our fingers, isnt it? Sometimes I think about that because a hundred and fifty years ago, if someone moved to a place like Seattle or San Francisco, it usually meant that the people left back east would never see them again. EVER. And yet, people still kept in touch and wrote letters that took weeks to arrive. I guess I dont have much of an excuse then huh?